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Weekly Chasidic Story #688 (s5771-22 / 26 Shevat 5771) Sensitivity "It is forbidden to hurt people's feelings,'' declared the "Beit Yisrael" of Gur Connection: Seasonal - 34th yahrzeit
Sensitivity
There were two brothers who studied in the yeshiva together. The younger brother was exceptionally brilliant; the older one was an ordinary student who did not excel in any area. Once, the pair arrived at the Shabbos night Tish (a rebbe's open table) just as the Rebbe was distributing wine. Amid the noise that naturally accompanied the distribution and the shouts of "L'Chaim" from all directions, the Rebbe instructed me to remember to give the older brother wine before the younger one, and to give him a larger amount, so that his extra respect for the older one would be unmistakable. "The younger brother is a better learner, and his brother probably feels bad about that," the Rebbe explained. ''The older brother needs to be encouraged so that he doesn't feel uncomfortable." Do you know what a Tish is like? Reb Yehoshua asks. Hundreds of people
standing, each one with * * * Rabbi Yehoshua Kleinlehrer also told how the Rebbe was extremely considerate of others and went to great lengths to ensure that people's feelings were not hurt. A certain Rosh Yeshiva who had only recently been appointed to the position once came to the Tish. Afterwards, I accompanied the Rebbe. Also with us was Rabbi Yehoshua Noach Binke, z''l, the Rebbe's outstanding faithful attendant. The Rebbe began complaining to Reb Yehoshua Noach. "So-and-so was recently appointed Rosh Yeshiva, and he should have received the respect due him at the Tish, but when you announced his name, you said, 'Leizer Moishe' [name has been changed], as if he were just anyone! True, that's the custom among chasidim, but he might think I don't want to acknowledge the fact that he's a Rosh Yeshiva. Don't we have to be considerate of his feelings?" The Rebbe then turned to me and said, "Go to his house and tell him that you heard me express my distress to the gabbai over the fact that he hadn't announced his name with proper respect. Why should a Jew feel resentful?" he asked. As it was quite late at night, I suggested to the Rebbe that the Rosh Yeshiva might already have gone to bed. ''No," the Rebbe insisted. "He hasn't gone to sleep yet. Go tell him what I told you to say, and report back to me." I followed the Rebbe's instructions, and indeed the Rosh Yeshiva was still up. When I told him what the Rebbe had said, he seemed enormously pleased. I reported this back to the Rebbe. The Rebbe glowed. He smiled that special, broad smile of his and said, "Nu, was he sleeping already?'' I confirmed that he had still been awake. ''Nu," the Rebbe said with satisfaction, "who has ["holy spirit"] -- you or me? Now he's sleeping well." Then, after pausing for a moment, he added, "It is forbidden to hurt people's feelings.'' ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ Connection: Seasonal - 34th yahrzeit Biographical note:
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his
own personal thoughts - and the Rebbe thinks about a Chevron bachur who
might feel uneasy during the distribution of wine.
Yerachmiel
Tilles is co-founder and associate director of Ascent-of-Safed, and chief editor
of this website (and of KabbalaOnline.org). He has hundreds of published stories
to his credit, and many have been translated into other languages. He tells
them live at Ascent nearly every Saturday night.