Weekly Chasidic Story #798 (s5773-27 / 29 Adar 5773)

A "Real Rebbe" Criterion

The "Razo" counseled the "Reshab" to make sure henceforth to pray looking at the words in the Siddur prayerbook and not by heart.

Connection: Seasonal--93rd yahrzeit of the Rebbe Reshab


"Real Rebbe" Criterion

One day in 1866, when the Rebbe Rashab - an acronym for Rabbi Sholom [Dov-]Ber, the fifth Lubavitcher Rebbe-to-be--was five years old, he and his brother [Shneur-] Zalman Aharon decided to play "chasid and Rebbe." The Raza [an acronym for Rabbi Zalman Aharon], who was about a year and a half older, would act as Rebbe and the Rashab would be the chasid entering the Rebbe's room for private audience. The Raza sat on a chair and straightened his hat, and the Rashab belted his waist as preparation for coming to ask him for a tikun-a [soul] rectification.

"For what are you asking a tikkun?" the Raza asked.

The Rashab replied, "This past Shabbos I ate some nuts, and later found out that the Alter Rebbe [their great-great-grandfather, Rabbi Shneur Zalman, the first Chabad Rebbe] writes that it is preferable to refrain from eating nuts on Shabbos." **

The Raza counseled him to make sure henceforth to pray looking at the words in the Siddur prayer-book and not by heart.

"Your advice won't help, and you're not a Rebbe!" exclaimed the Rashab.

"Why not?" asked his puzzled brother.

"When a Rebbe answers, he is supposed to sigh. You didn't sigh, so your advice is no good!"

Retelling this incident, the Lubavitcher Rebbe of our generation (1902-1994) commented that when one Jew helps another, the assistance itself is not enough; what is vital is his sigh, empathizing with the other's pain. Doing a favor for another for the sake of merit and improving oneself, for the sake of one's own self-perfection, without feeling the other's heartache, is not kindness, but the opposite.

Editor's note: ** Due to technical problems involved in the disposal of the shells-see Shulchan Aruch HaRav 319:9.

Source: Adapted by Yerachmiel Tilles primarily from Lma'an Yishme'u #122, and from other Chabad sources.

Connection: Seasonal -- The 93rd yahrzeit of the Rebbe Reshab falls this Wednesday (2 Nissan).


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